Spring is here! This is a great time to reconnect to your desires, intentions and goals for the year. Most people commit to resolutions at the beginning of the year and have the highest intentions to make the changes desired. Life sneaks in and then, especially without structures to support you in continuing to take the steps you need, good intentions fade (into the very same habits and patterns that you were wanting to change).
If this sounds familiar, don’t despair! You have another fresh opportunity to connect to what your heart desires and begin taking steps again. As Rumi so wisely wrote:
“Come, even if you have broken your vow a thousand times
Come, yet again, come, come.”
Below I offer some simple practices to keep you on track for the rest of the year.
It is important to celebrate your accomplishments. In our consumer driven society it is easy once we have achieved a goal to immediately move on to our next goal or judge the goal achieved as minor or not enough.
Cast your mind back on this year so far. Take time to list all you have accomplished. Notice any judgments about the size or value or importance of your accomplishments – and continue to write all and any accomplishments. List as many as possible. Even the “smallest” of achievements are huge steps!
If you are having trouble tapping into what you have accomplished, ask yourself “what has changed in my life this year?” and list what changed and which qualities you embodied to create those changes.
If you wrote goals or resolutions earlier in the year, review these goals and:
– acknowledge your accomplishments
– explore what worked: list the tools and your behaviours that helped you reach those goals
– ask yourself if they are still relevant*
– if you didn’t yet achieve your goals, and they are still desired and relevant, forgive yourself for temporarily getting off track and recommit to your goals
– break down the steps necessary for the rest of the year to achieve these desired results
– schedule these necessary actions in your calendar.
*While considering if these goals are still relevant, I urge you to be extra careful and vigilant. Your sneaky, self-sabotaging parts may be whispering (or yelling!) that you no longer desire to accomplish that goal – when, in fact, that part of you is simply feeling scared or, due to some negative self-belief, does not want you to succeed. Or fail. Get’s complicated, eh? This is where having a therapist or coach can help.
If you didn’t set goals for yourself and would like to, then take some time to connect with your desires for the rest of the year. Grab a pen and some paper and answer these questions:
– What are 3 goals I would love to achieve by the end of this year?
– What might stop me in achieving these goals?
– How will I overcome this?
– Who can support me?
– What qualities can I draw upon in myself to help me succeed?
Then, with each of these 3 goals, use the following technique for making success more achievable.
To support your success, ensure that each goal is:
Now schedule these new actions and goals and put a monthly check-in date on your calendar to check-in with what’s working, celebrate your accomplishments and tweak and course-correct if necessary.
Taking time to regularly pause and take pleasure in your accomplishments is extremely important. Doing so begins to place more emphasis and attention on how good it feels and this pleasure then becomes added motivation for achieving your goals.
Set a monthly date to check-in with how you are doing with your goals. The reason for this is twofold: to celebrate your successes and/or to course-correct if you are lagging.
Plan in advance how you will celebrate your successes and how you will reward yourself for accomplishing your goals. Celebrating or rewards can be as simple as pausing often to experience the sensations of success and of knowing you did what you said you would, or telling a supportive friend of your progress or some material reward.
Support and accountability are often a large part of how we achieve our goals. Find a friend to partner with and support one another in taking steps towards living your dreams. Share your goals and call upon one another for cheerleading, arse-kicking and accountability.
Share this article with a friend and invite them to become accountability partners with you and support one another in creating what you desire.